Walking Away From Misery

  • I came here to write a bitter little post about giving everything I have to someone who didn't appreciate me, who will never thank me. 

    And then, as I was futzing around trying to write (and doing everything but writing) - I found this: HOLLY BUTCHER: 1990-2018

    My take away quotes:

    "Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people. "

    "...remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true."

    I am Coddiwomple. Someone striding purposefully away from a situation that has left me feeling undervalued and unloved. I question the value of giving, and I question my desire to trust people. But.... screw that. I'm going to give anyway, because sometimes it makes a difference in someone's life (even if they don't appreciate it) - and giving sure as heck makes a difference in mine.

    I am striding away from misery. I have a tendency to want people who have abused me to acknowledge what they have done, and I fight and fight miserably for it. Screw that too. When I find myself dwelling and feeling miserable, it's time to work on ways to let it go. My first ideas on how to do that: refuse conversations about that person or the relationship, meditate when stressing about it, ask for what I want/ed and then let go of any outcome, exercise the stress endorphins out of my body. 

    Any other ideas? 

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